Have you ever felt that a day has gone by and you didn’t even notice? Normally you wish for days to go quicker because you are going out with friends, or going on holidays… But have you ever felt regret for not living that day, those hours, with a bit more attention?
This happened to me the other day. I woke up, shower, clothes, food, walk, bus, walk, bus, work. And suddenly those 2 hours were a blur to me. And I felt really strange about it. I was caught up in my own thoughts and tiredness, that I didn’t live a single second of those two hours. As if I wasn’t there. Just my body being carried by a robotic movement. That shocked me. It shocks me just by writing and reliving it.
One of the things I’ve learned about, in this journey in Rituals, is that we need to be more mindful, and we need to “(…) transform our (…) routines into more meaningful rituals”. Their philosophy is so right, fits in so well with our lives in this century.
Mindfulness. ‘the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something, a mental state achieved by focusing on one’s awareness on the present’ (oxford dictionaries)
Those two hours could have been so much more enjoyable. I could have meditated in those 5 minutes in the shower; my breakfast could have been even more delicious; I could have paid attention to the people, the scenery, on my way to work. And most likely, that would have allowed me to have a different energy during that day.
“Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand-new hours are before me. I vow to live fully in each moment and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion.” Thich Nhat Hanh
Now with a kid, you need to use every second of your day to be able to have time for everything (for myself, my husband, my daughter, and for work). By being mindful, you can actually do everything you planned. Why? Because you were focusing exclusively on that task, and most likely, it didn’t take half the time you thought it would. Focus on the little things like the sound of the water in the shower, how your body moves when you are breathing, the sounds when you are taking a walk, your baby’s expressions and sounds when you are together… Create that habit. And it’s by starting with one moment a day, and you will soon feel the need of being mindful the entire day. They say, ‘a little progress each day adds up to big results’.
Stop. Be mindful.
He said, “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do, and mostly live.” Dalai Lama