Find the Balance

I have always believed that our life should be lived in this order of priorities…

You are first YOU, secondly a WIFE, and then a MOTHER.

What do I mean with this? You should never forget and change who you are, and never forget to focus on your other 'roles' and find a balance in life.

When you become a MOTHER, it is the best thing that can happen in life! You are filled with such love that it's impossible to describe. This tiny person comes from the love you and your partner have for each other, it's your own blood, and it is your's for the rest of your life. A connection that will never ever disappear. BUT…

Before you became a mother, you are a WIFE, a partner, a girlfriend. A decision you made to share your life with someone you love. And this is something that during the first phase of becoming a parent, is commonly "forgotten", because of several reasons…. You are recovering from giving birth, you are both tired, you don't have time, money, anyone to stay with your kid…. So easy to come up with excuses. But it is so important to remember that you are a couple, and the love you share needs to be fed constantly. Because, at the end of the day, that baby is a fruit of your love. Create small rules, small routines, like creating a 'no phone' rule during meals, or in bed, go for a walk after dinner, come up with an activity you can both do and enjoy, go to bed at the same time and talk, plan a dinner date every week…. There are many things you can do to celebrate your LOVE.

Lastly, but the most important! Never forget about YOU!! Before you became a mother, and a wife, you were and still are YOU. A person, an individual with dreams, with passions, with goals. Never give up on these, because if you do, will stop being you, and living only for others, and not for yourself. Make sure you have your own ME TIME, to pamper yourself, to treat yourself, to pursue any dream you have, anything that makes you feel good and fulfilled.

Of course, this is so much easier said than done. Because life gets easily in the middle, and all of a sudden, you are writing a post about things you are struggling with…. yup, life isn't easy! But if it was, it just simply wouldn't be fun! This is work in progress, a daily effort you and your partner need to make, because, I definitely believe that if you achieve it, you will be in a state of balance and happiness in your life that you will never ever want to live without!

Do you agree? Share your thoughts!!

Mary *

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